I’m writing to you out of love and with your best interest at heart, I promise. There are so many things that I want to tell you but I’ll start with the very important basics.
I seriously can’t stress this enough. Self love will be the root of happiness for you.
You’re not fat, you’re not chubby, and you don’t need to suck in your stomach. You are beautiful, you are amazing, and you are worth so much more than what you see in the mirror. Wear that bikini and wear the shit out of it while you can. (Get into the habit of exercising now so you don’t dread it later.)
Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about yourself.
Don’t worry so much about how you look. You can leave your house in sweats. You don’t need that much makeup. Eyeliner is not your best friend, I promise you can go a day or two (or four) without her. You don’t need to spend hundreds of dollars on expensive jeans, you’ll stop wearing them and soon enough you won’t fit into them anyways.
You’ll soon figure all of this out.
Boys are not everything.
Don’t wait around for any boy. Don’t get your confidence from any boy. You don’t need any compliment to make you feel pretty or special. Find your confidence in Jesus, you will find His love and He will give you an unlimited supply.
Don’t cry over boys, they’re not worthy of those precious tears you’re going to shed. You’ll get hurt and endure heartbreak, but you’ll get through it. It doesn’t last forever although I know it really really seems like it right now. It’s not as bad as it feels.
Listen to your friends. The boy that you think is the absolute greatest (he makes you cry all the time but tells you he loves you) most likely is a piece of shit.
You’ll know when you find the right “one”. You won’t be calling him a boy, you’ll be calling him a man. He won’t make you cry, he’ll make you laugh. He really does love you, so don’t push him away. He will make it his mission to take care of you.
And you’ll find him sooner than you think, trust me. 😉
Your friends are everything.
Hang out with them as much as you can because once your life starts it will be so hard to see them when you want. You’ll have a job, school and a busy life and so will they.
Don’t try to hangout with the “popular” kids, hangout with your true friends. The ones who will make you laugh until you cry, the ones you spend days and nights with, the ones you could never get sick of.
Don’t choose any boy over your best friend. They’re just looking out for your best interest. Your best friend won’t leave your side, a boy will. They’ll be there hugging you when some boy is making you cry. Chicks over dicks, right?
Most of all, be proud of yourself.
Be proud of the girl who God has created you to be. You are perfectly imperfect.
Be nice to your parents, eat whatever you please, be yourself and don’t take shit from anybody.
I look forward to seeing everything that you do and accomplish.
xoxo, Syd (Your 20-year-old self)